Change, metamorphosis, growth, aging, all of them. I”m feeling “some kind of way” lately. Okay, dear readers, I am going to keep it all the way real. I am feeling anxious, frustrated, happy, unsure, excited, the full gamut of human emotions, unemployable, all around unattractive, dissatisfied at times. I concern myself with what others think of me (to a point). I want to be a useful human being, one that is selfless, helpful, showing fellow feeling on a consistent basis. Ahhh, the balance involved in such a goal.
The project of transforming my wardrobe may have just been the beginning of the personal change I am seeking. The concept has been in my mind all along I do believe. Recently I read an article by Delightful Divinity that spurred me on, touched my soul. I am choosing to be a lady.
It is interesting that the information I am reading relative to ladyhood is not new. Much of it I learned from those that have gone before me; i.e., my mother, aunties, good friends, and even religious education-my walk with Jehovah God. The reminders, at least for me, are oh so needed and it’s funny how you can learn something in one forum, hear it in yet another and it then strikes a cord. Perhaps it is what one is going through at the time that was not happening when the information was originally presented. Being in a different frame of mind can make one see things in a new light. That is where I think I am in working toward becoming the lady that I want to be.
One reward, if you will, that has me thrilled is the change that will come in the way people treat me as the result of my treating them with heightened respect, graciousness, and fellow feeling. The World of A Lady outlines nine worthy benefits of choosing to be a lady including:
- Everyone speaks kindly and gently to you as you would to them.
- The more you act like a lady, the more you bring out the gentlemanly side of the boys and men in your life.
- Being a lady is about being kind. It is also about choosing to believe the best in others and yourself.
She goes on to list misconceptions of being a lady too. ” It is in human nature to prefer beauty over vulgarity. ” I like that quote. How basic and common sense it is, right? Thanks to Miss Susie of Delightfully Divine, Elegant Woman will be one of the staple sites (along with the Holy Scriptures) for consultation in my transformation.
Years ago I read a book, Fascinating Womanhood, by Helen Andelin and I will revisit that publication. I am glad that I did not discard or give it away. Much of the topic of choosing to be a lady is discussed in detail in Mrs. Andelin’s book. Though written in the 60’s the principles are timeless and I encourage you to read it with an open mind and willing heart. I strongly urge you – get your own copy so you can write in it, take notes, highlight in pretty colors.
As always I solicit your response to this topic. There is knowledge in community and camaraderie is a good thing when a person is seeking personal growth as friends can look objectively and offer constructive, kind advice.
The Holy Bible at Proverbs 31 speaks volumes. I could not have ended this post with a better summation.